A slice of the pie

 

As you become more and more focused on becoming successful at wherever you have chosen to invest your energy, you will likely encounter a disturbing reality.

Not everyone will be cheering you on.

In fact, the more prosperous you become, the more likely you are to encounter naysayers, venom-spreaders and energy vampires. At best they’ll merely drag your sunshiny, can-do attitude as far downward as they can manage. At worst, they’ll haul your sterling reputation through the mud by spreading vicious lies.

And the worst offenders are frequently family members and close friends.

Why do people behave this way? Two answers: First, they would love to have your drive and spunk. But frankly, they aren’t willing to do the intense work that’s required. They want a shortcut. They want the goodies without the gumption.

Second, they believe that the success “pie” is comprised of a finite number of slices. If you obtain (note that word choice) a larger-than-average slice, that means they’ll be left with a smaller one. Result: envy…then, sabotage.

Third, entitlement. Your success means, in their minds, a right to dip into your stash. You become their private ATM. Never underestimate the levels they’ll sink to, ranging from guilt trips to outright theft.

The remedy? Force them to earn their keep. Assign them certain tasks which need doing and for which they’ll be compensated. Be specific. Then sit back and watch what happens.

If all they’ve been seeking is paid employment within a still sluggish economy, then you may uncover a happy surprise––a worker bee who is willing, perhaps eager to commit to honest labor. If not, then you’ll have a slacker on your hands. But not for long. Soon you’ll take him/her aside and gently inquire with a puzzled frown, “Have I not made my expectations clear?”

No reasonable person expects to ride forever in someone else’s wagon. So disregard all accusations that include the word “selfish.” (Trust me; it’s a carefully crafted weapon.) Steer this person toward the nearest mirror. Be sure he’s staring straight into it. Then quietly leave the room.

 

 


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